Most people get married with the intention of staying married to their partner, but many times marriages do not last and end in a divorce. Some couples are realistic and write a prenuptial agreement or premarital agreement before getting married. This avoids a lot of the headache that is associated with divorces. Prenuptial agreements are somewhat like a game plan for if you or your spouse decides to get a divorce. Couples can also write a postnuptial agreement in the case that a prenuptial agreement was not written and signed before their marriage. Assuming that you and your spouse do not have either a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement, then this article provides tips on things you can do before filing for a divorce.
Securing your Assets
Some divorces can get very ugly and messy. If you have any doubt about your spouse’s intentions, then you should always have your own bank account. Many therapists recommend that couples keep their own separate bank accounts to avoid any turmoil caused by joint finances. However, if you feel a divorce might be coming, then it is crucial to secure some funds. Many times courts order for you and your spouse’s bank accounts to be frozen while the divorce terms are determined. Withdrawing cash from your bank account before you accounts are frozen allows you to retain your financial independence during the divorce. Divorces can be stressful, but having to be locked down with minimal financial power makes things much more stressful. So make sure to secure enough cash to get you through your divorce.
Finding a Divorce Attorney
There are many family law practices, but deciding which one is best for you can be a difficult process. The first step should be making a list of highly rated practices or attorneys. Make sure to read reviews on popular attorney review sites to get a better understanding of the practices on your list. Some practices like Ken Phillips Law have thorough website that offer a lot of valuable information. This is a great place to start learning about how to prepare for a divorce. Apart from reading reviews and checking websites, you should definitely have a face to face meeting with your potential attorney before signing any agreement. This will give you the opportunity to see if you are comfortable with the attorney and his or her practice.
Preparing your Children
Many times we overlook that a divorce can adversely affect our children’s perception of us. It will be important to sit down and talk as a family with your children about a potential divorce. It will be absolutely crucial for them to know that it is not their fault nor will they be loved any less than before. Plus, by making sure your children have the opportunity to voice their opinion will allow them to feel they have some say in the matter. You should avoid asking them if they would like to live with you or your spouse, as this can add stress to your child’s decision.
Divorces can be amicable and in good terms, but the better prepared you are for the divorce gives you the best chances on completing the divorce in favorable terms.